Making Friends The Hard Way

This picture contains two of my most favorite men; my dad and brother. I caught them after they had spent a day together and were thoroughly enjoying each other's company. Things weren't always like this and it pretty much took puberty and maturity for my little brother to realize that our dad was a pretty cool guy to be around. The love was always there between the two; but it tooks years for the mutual respect and admiration to grow.
I'm really proud of the relationship these two now have. It took a long time for them to come together but sometimes that's the way life's journey is handed to us. You can't always take shortcuts but you do need to look for the right path to traverse. For my dad and brother, it was a path well worn prior by our family's dads and sons who knocked heads hardened by stubborness and the same sort of bullheadedness passed down through the generations.
Dad and I walked this same path but not with the same intensity provided through their father-son relationship. As a daughter, things were just different- almost easier for us - even though our personalities were so similar yet clashing at times. Nevertheless, I'd never take back a day - good or bad. I thank God everyday for the time we've had and the time we'll hopefully continue to have.
Don't waste your own precious time hashing over the small stuff; life's too short. Keep that in mind.
Comments
You know whay I am going to write so why didn't you answering it in the blog?
Ok for those who read this and is wondering what is going on here it is.
When did Uncle R mature?
Ok now that that is said, I have one other comment.
You mentioned your easy relationship with your dad. Most girls do have an easy time with their daddy. But what about your relationship with your mom? Was it as easy as with your dad? Most sons find it easier to have a relationship with their mothers than their dads in their younger years than girls with their mothers.
This comes from my broader knowledge as being raise with 3 sisters and 2 brothers.
Lets hear you take on it please.
Have a nice day.
Posted by: Gump | June 9, 2008 12:42 PM
Hi San,
Great picture of the fellows,Your advice hits home with Sam and dad.Since she got her own place they get along better than they use to.I read all your blogs and the most recent just rip my heart out,Iam always here for all of you, and don't forget if you need Sam she is available.Keep care!
Posted by: Aunt Becky | June 9, 2008 02:02 PM
Thanks Beck and Gump, you're just the thinker and I appreciate it. Uncle R hasn't quite matured all the way but hell, let's throw him a bone once in awhile! My mom and I have always been bestfriends but it took some time between my dad and I. It's funny now, 'cuz I think my mom and brother are even more close than my mom and I are. Family dynamics are great and I could go on and on...
Posted by: Sandi | June 9, 2008 02:21 PM