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December 29, 2009

Break Your Negativity Habit Today

My father in law just gave my wife and I one of those rubber wrist bands--Like the Lance Armstrong "Live Strong" ones of a few years ago.

This one is purple and has a whole different purpose!

The idea is to use it as a queuing device to quit complaining, sniveling, and whining about life--Every time you complain, you must snap or change the band to the other arm.

My wristband is already stretched out and worn....Boo Hoo/Waa Waa!

The website for instructions and ordering is: www.aComplaintFreeWorld.org

The results are AWESOME....and we are having a ball "catching" both ourselves and each other complaining.

I see this working on the same Toastmaster Principle of beginning to catch your own and others non-fluencies such as "um"s, "and's", "uh's", and "ya knows".

Funny how something this simple can break a poisonous habit of gossip, negativity, and permeating pessimism.

Go for it....this a brilliant and easy way to make a fundamental life change for the New Year!

November 28, 2009

Mission, Vision, and You

Vision and Mission

Start with the big picture—put first things first.

Experts in the fields of psychology and personal effectiveness now recognize it if you feel upset or an uneasy about your lack of personal time, it’s not because you have too much to do. It’s because you not satisfied with most of what you do. Determine what’s most important in your life.

Ask such questions as what’s most important?
What gives your life meaning?
What do you want to be and to do with your life?
Clarity on these issues is critical because the answers to these questions affect everything else in your life—your goals, the decisions you make in the way you spend your time, and so much more.

The need for a balanced life—

If you don’t think balance in your life is vitally important to your happiness, success and health. Consider this: there is considerable evidence showing that mishandled stress at home interferes with work performance, and mishandled job pressure creates and magnifies problems at home. Research shows that the quality of your personal relationships strongly influences job productivity, disease resistance and longevity. Conversely, people who have value power over family and friendships appear to have a harder time fighting off disease and sickness.

Ask yourself these questions:

Can success in one area of life compensate for failure in another?
Can success in your profession compensate for a broken marriage or ruined health?
Can success in the community justify failure as a parent?
Important: success or failure in any role you have contributes to the quality of every other role, and your life as a whole. Keep balance in your life. Identify your various roles and keep them right in front of you so that you don’t neglect important areas such as your health, your family, your community involvement, or personal development. Evaluating your various roles and attaching a new level of priority in each is another important step in becoming balanced and aligned and a whole person.

Enjoy life—

The matter what your circumstance or how uncertain future, you can still be filled with enjoyment, humor, and a good attitude. Don’t let fear or anxiety keep you from experiencing the happiness that life has to offer. Go to a local park, enjoy the fresh air, and have fun. Have friends over for dinner. Spend time with family. Think about what activities you enjoy and go do them!

November 23, 2009

TIME MANAGEMENT -- THE SECRET 80/20 RULE

Time management—
We all possess valuable resources, but none is trickier or more valuable than time. Managing your time is THE key skill set in managing your life. Show me what you do with your time and I’ll show you what your value system is all about. When leveraging time you will utilize and expand on your core strength. If you can manage your time well you can accomplish almost anything. Using time incrementally, methodically, and strategically will help you stay on track and achieve your life priorities.
Personal productivity is only as limited as your proper use of time. Wise use of time maximizes and leverages all resources and helps you achieve your goals, objectives, and priorities. Good time management allows you to plan ahead and to use your purpose and passion with laser focus—nothing becomes impossible. Your productivity, as you leverage your passion through good time management, increases exponentially resulting in compelling accomplishment.
“Plan your work, then work your plan” is a great axiom. The “work your plan” part has to do with time management. Planning is great, but is useless without execution. Time management is all about the execution of your plans, goals, passions, and objectives.
The 80-20 rule is evidence of this…. The Peitro Principle states this: You accomplish about 80% of your results from 20% of your work. 20% of any group or team usually contributes to 80% of the work; this 80/20 notion is a fixed law in business, church, family or any part of life.
The 80/20 principle as applied to your workday is to find your personal “prime time” then leverage that time in the most productive way possible. 96 minutes is 20% of an 8 hour day. To schedule around your 20% “prime time”, where you are most productive and efficient. This is the key to leveraging time, productivity, and accomplishment. For most people their prime time is in the morning. This is the time to get all of your core work accomplished. This key time is to be secured and set aside as the valuable commodity it truly is. Prime work time should be scheduled on a daily basis and should have compelling content at its core. Planning, goal setting, reviewing, communicating, executing initiatives, key meetings, key document creation, and much more are all the key elements of utilizing your prime time window.
In our daily Prime time we should focus on activities that—
1. Contribute to our customer, family, stakeholders success and satisfaction
2. Booster personal productivity and performance
3. Support your family or organization’s strategic vision and goals
Time management tips—
1. Know and use your calendar or Daytimer
2. Prioritize demands on your time
3. Keep your priority list in front of you
4. Keep checking your progress with time management.
5. Stockpile work or questions, and to schedule says its time work on them. Only work on things in your scheduled to do so.
6. Seek support when you need it— delegate
7. Develop techniques that help you when in a unique situation
8. Pick a morning or an evening to work when no one is around and get organized. Order creates less stress and helps focus
9. Spend a few minutes at the end of the day putting everything in its home base and getting ready for the next day. Remember… trash it, act on it, refer it, or file it away.
10. Keep yourself motivated.


The idea here is to have a balanced life. This begins with healthy relationships and healthy personal spirit. Living your life in balance and alignment starts with living your priorities. The peace and congruity that results is compelling. A life lived well by living your priorities and being able to have fun energizes you and gives a deep sense of satisfaction.
You know you’re on the right track when—
1. Your customers, boss, family and peers praise your accomplishments.
2. You meet your sales, personal, or family goals and have a positive performance
3. You are often considered for additional responsibility and special projects.
4. You feel good about your work and family and are energized by them.
The Covey idea of sharpening your saw and resting so you can work more efficiently is the key. A life lived in balance with family, work, community, friendships, and personal fulfillment is truly a productive life.
It all starts at time management, personal discipline, and self-control. Just do it.
Time management is---
The definition of Time management is a set of skills, tools, and systems that work together to help you get more value out of your time and leverage it to accomplish what you want.
SCOTT HAMMOND .

November 15, 2009

12 Powerful Moves to End Chaos

1. Block out specific time in your planner for all activities.Manage time well.

2. Use the 5 minute rule to preview your day and week.

3. Make a daily or weekly to do List. Stick to it.

4. Tackle the hard things first. Eat the Frogs! Get past them quickly and efficiently.

5. Delegate everything but your Genius!

6. Stop being available 24/7/365.

7. Schedule your interruptions. Set aside & plan time for them.

8. Insist that people bring you Solutions not just problems.

9. Make a daily appointment with yourself--Gym, fun, etc...

10. Find a quite place away from the phone, distraction,etc...

11. Reward yourself for the little victories. Starbucks? Home early?

12. Stop putting yourself last all the time. Do stuff for yourself sometimes.

October 07, 2009

20 Ways to Compelling Goals

1. Have SMART goals

2. Have strategies that work-- Make sure your goals are workable, realistic, and actionable.

3. Have good implementation—follow through and be methodical, sequential and incremental. Start small and do not despise the day of small beginnings.

4. Accountability—be accountable to trusted advisors and mentors and those more experienced. Coach and mentor others as well. Hold yourself and others accountable to your goals.

5. Minimize distraction—focus on what’s important—keep the main thing the main thing

6. Commit to your goals and plans—daily review your goals and adjust as needed

7. Communicate your goals, with all stakeholders and family members—don’t do this in a corner.

8. Post written goals publicly—be very public and very accountable and very up front with goals

9. Get family buy in and immediately—kid buying in and commitment to everyone involved. Share what you have in mind with others who play a role in the plans success and achievement.

10. Have daily, weekly, monthly meetings to review goals and progress

11. Develop reasonable implementation schedule and stick to it—calendarize!

12. Do your plans, see what happens, adjust as needed, and keep in touch with those who can help you stay on track. Accountability works great!

13. Evaluate—revisit current goals and paradigms and find what works and what doesn’t. Implement change immediately. If it works. Do not fix it.

14. Think out of the box—creatively brainstorm. Be fearless and try new things. Get feedback from trusted advisors and mentors.

15. Go away—go somewhere way from all distraction and develop a compelling parenting plan.

16. Create a culture of accountability, celebration and clarity—celebrate achievement by awarding team and individual accomplishment. Give public and private encouragement and praise. reward achievement

17. Communicate expectations—have courageous conversations and be clear on expectations. Communicate, communicate, and communicate.

18. Leverage your time and manager prime times of the day—the times where energy is the highest and most focused.

19. Just do it—plan the work and work the plan. Commit to high performance. Kill procrastination and perfectionism. Keep a sense of humor. Learn to grow and change. It back in action and get involved.

20. Dream it, write it down, and just do it--- rediscover your passion, mission and purpose today. You have a choice, time, resources, and ability. Now it’s up to you.

March 03, 2009

5 Simple Exercise Programs


Five Simple Exercise Programs for Beginners

Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter.
I’ve been exercising regularly for a few years, with tremendous improvements in my health, and whenever someone asks me how they should start out in exercise, I tell them to just get moving!

Try to get moving every day — whether it’s walking, running, strength training, sports, running around with the kids, swimming, paddling, or whatever works for you. If you can do that, you’ll get healthier and fitter over time.

And it does take time. Any exercise program that promises results in a week or three or even a month is either lying to you, or not worth it — you’ll just gain it back in a short amount of time, because you haven’t changed your lifestyle or habits. So no, you won’t see quick results if you get active, but you’ll see long-term results if you stick with it. Have fun along the way and things will be great.

And what you eat is just as important. Make small changes over time to your diet — drink water instead of soda, or eat leaner cuts of meat (or go vegetarian), cut out fried foods, eat more fruits and veggies, cut out processed grains, changes like that — and you’ll be well on your way to a healtheir lifestyle and a fitter you.

But these generalized recommendations never seem to be enough. People want specific programs. And while I’m not a certified trainer or an expert in any way, I have found some simple exercise programs that work for me and others I know, and can recommend them. As always, if you have health problems, check with a doctor before getting into any kind of exercise program.

One last note: take it slowly. Your body needs time to adapt to the exercise, and if you overdo it you can injure yourself or burnout, and neither is good if you’re trying to stick with it long term. Progress gradually, in small steps, and you’ll stay injury-free and see great long-term results.

Program 1: Intervals for Beginners

Intervals are a great way to get intense exercise in without overdoing it. And they can be a lot of fun if steady-state cardio bores you to tears.

Start out with some steady-state cardio, though, at least for a month while you get used to moving more. Walking is a great way to start out, especially if you haven’t exercised in awhile and/or you’re pretty overweight. If you’re in decent shape with not too many extra pounds, start with some slow, light jogging.

After a month or so of doing this at least 3 times a week (4-5 is even better but not everyone has the time), you can add some light intervals. Warm up for 5 minutes first to prevent injury and to let your heart adjust to beating faster, before starting the intervals. For beginner walkers, just pick up the pace for 30-60 seconds, and then walk at a normal pace for 1-2 minutes to recover. Don’t overdo it at first. You can repeat this 3-5 times during your normal walk.

For people in slightly better shape, try walk/run intervals. Again, warm up for 5 minutes, then jog for 30-60 seconds followed by 1-2 minutes walking for recovery. Repeat 3-5 times and then cool down.

For those in even better shape, do jog/run intervals, where you jog slowly, pick up the pace to a steady run (not sprinting and not too fast) for 30-60 seconds, then back to a slow jog for 1-2 minutes recovery. Again, repeat 3-5 times.

After doing this workout for 1-2 weeks, add more intervals slowly until you’re up to about 6-8. Once you’re used to this, slowly increase the length of your intervals. Instead of 30-60 seconds, do 60-90 seconds. After a couple weeks of longer intervals, increase the intensity of the intervals — a faster walk, or a jog instead of a walk, or a faster run, depending on what you’ve been doing so far.

Intervals are a great way to burn calories and fat (assuming you’re eating fairly healthy and not overeating), strengthen your leg muscles and core, and just get healthier overall.

Program 2: Sports

This is one of the easiest programs on this list, and also one of the most fun. Basically: play a sport you like, or even a new sport you’ve never tried before, a few times a week. Again, the idea is just to get moving, and to have fun while you’re moving.

It can be any sport where you’re moving around a lot (golf, bowling, darts, and the like are great but don’t count) — just choose a sport to start with and give it a try. If you already love a sport but haven’t been playing it in awhile, do that — it’s important that this be fun for you. Do it 3-4 times a week. Or try a new sport — if you’ve always wanted to try soccer, or rugby, or rowing/paddling, or cycling, do it now! Find someone who knows how to play it, or join a club or group that will show you how it’s done, and give it a try! It can be difficult at first, but go easy when you start and really try to learn the rules and skills. Think of it as a fun challenge. You might be a little sore when you first start out.

Start with 30 minutes and progress gradually to 45-60 minutes a day, at least 3 days a week. Try to get to 4-5 days a week if you can.

After a month or so of one sport, switch to another to keep it fun and challenging. Keep doing this for a few months. After you’ve tried at least 3 sports, start to mix it up — do basketball on Monday, for example, then soccer, then swimming, then rowing — whatever you feel like, whatever seems fun, whatever it takes to stay active. The more you mix it up, the better.

Program 3: Circuits

This is a fairly traditional sort of program, but great nonetheless. Basically: you do one exercise followed by another and another and so on until you’ve done the whole circuit of exercises, rest for a couple minutes, then repeat the whole circuit. The exercises can be strength exercises, cardio, or some combination. The circuit format keeps things interesting, and keeps your heart-rate up so you burn more fat than if you rested in between exercises.

For beginners, remember to start slowly — it can be easy to overdo it with a program like this. I recommend you start with just 4-5 exercises, and rest 10-30 seconds between each at first. Later you can cut the rest period down until you’re not resting between exercises, only between circuits.

To start out with, choose 4-5 exercises such as: bodyweight squats, jumping jacks, pushups (you can do them against the wall instead of on the ground if necessary), jump squats (squats with a jump at the top), burpees (basically jump squats combined with pushups), dips, lunges, side lunges, wall climbers, pullups, jump roping, jogging in place, bicycle crunches. Some of these are tough, so if you have trouble with them start with easier ones or modified versions so they’re not so hard. Do a YouTube search if you don’t know how to do the exercises properly.

Do 30 seconds of each exercise, rest for 10-30 seconds, do the next exercise, and so on until you’ve done all 4-5 exercises you’ve chosen. Rest for 2 minutes and repeat.

When you first start, just do 2 circuits. Then after a week or two, add a third circuit, and then after another week or two add a fourth. When you’ve adjusted to that, add additional exercises (feel free to switch out new exercises whenever you like). Gradually shorten the rest period between exercises until you don’t rest at all during the circuit — only between circuits.

Program 4: Crossfit Light

One of my favorite exercise programs is Crossfit, because it’s an all-around program that focuses on your entire body, and all parts of fitness. If you do Crossfit, you’ll be in shape for just about anything, from sports to the military or law enforcement to any physical challenge you can think of.

However, Crossfit is not for beginners. It’s tough. If you’re in decent shape already, you should start Crossfit by doing a modified version of their Workout of the Day (WOD), which is posted daily on the main website. Modified meaning an easier version. After a few months, you should try to progress to the full version of the WOD.

However, complete beginners should start with an even easier version — let’s call it Crossfit Light. There isn’t any such program, but it’s basically modifying the WOD so that beginners can do it without killing themselves. An example of the past week of WODs:

Wednesday

Regular WOD: Push jerk 1-1-1-1-1-1-1 reps (only one repetition, as heavy as you can, rest, then repeat 6 more times)
Light WOD: Push jerk with light dumbells, 10 reps, 3 sets
Thursday

Regular: Walking lunge 100 ft.; 21 Pull-ups; 21 Sit-ups (repeat circuit 5 more times, decreasing number of pullups/situps by 3 each circuit)
Light: Walking lunge 8 steps; 1 or 2 jump pullups, 5-10 situps (repeat circuit 3 times)
Friday

Regular: 21 Hip-Back Extensions; Run 400 meters (repeat circuit 5 more times, decreasing number of hip-back extensions by 3 each circuit)
Light: Supermans 10 reps; jog or walk 100-200 meters (repeat circuit 3 times)
Saturday - Rest


Sunday


Regular: “Helen” - Three rounds for time: Run 400 meters, 1 1/2 pood Kettlebell X 21 swings (or 55 pound dumbbell swing), 12 Pull-ups
Light: Three rounds (take your time) of jog or walk 100-200 meters, 10 dumbbell swings (whatever weight you’re comfortable with), 3-5 jump pullups
Monday

Regular: Deadlift 1-1-1-1-1-1-1 reps (as heavy as you can for 1 rep, rest, repeat 6 more times)
Light: Deadlift with light dumbbells 10 times, repeat 3 sets
So you can see that instead of going for intensity, the light workout is much easier and more relaxed. Again, it’s just for starting out — you’ll want to make it tougher as you progress.

Program 5: Triathlon Light

When I trained for a triathlon last year, I felt fitter than ever before, because I was training for three sports (running, cycling, swimming). My body was getting an amazing all-around workout. However, if you’re a complete beginner, you’ll want to start out lighter than normal.

So you can start with three sports — perhaps walk/running, swimming or rowing, and cycling or the cycling machine. Substitute whatever sport/exercise works better for you.

Start out by doing each sport once a week (15-20 minutes a day to start with), and gradually increase over time until you’re doing each sport twice a week. Then increase the duration of your exercise until you get to 30 minutes a day.

Eventually, try to do the real three triathlon sports, as they have amazing health benefits, especially when you mix them up like this. Be sure to always take at least one rest day a week.

January 03, 2009

New Years Resolutions...Less is More

3 New Year Resolutions–Less is the New More

Less is more…

1. Spend more time with God…Pursue making time to simply be with Him in prayer, meditation, and quietly waiting on Him.
2. Loving my Wife Consistently…Making the time to grow in our relationship in dates, time, and having opportunities to grow in our relationship with God and each other. Loving my kids; Intentionally making them part of my day: everyday via play, talking and listening, and incorporating them into my life/schedule.
3. Self Discipline…Just executing reasonable discipline and time management in finances, cell time, web time, sleep, healthy eating, exercising, driving safely, and eliminating absorption with over-achievement, fear, worry, and angst. Actually doing less ; which is the new More…

November 28, 2008

Really...Be Here Now

Be present now—
Where are you right now? Are you here, in your chair, reading this? Or is your mind racing elsewhere – to your unread e-mail, or what to make for dinner? Are you still flashing back to your tuning comment your boss made hours ago, continuing conversations with people who are not even in the room?
Don’t laugh, but time travel is a real – we spent a lot of time in the past and the future. All day, we plan, fantasize, remember and regret, and missed the here and now. There’s a toll for all the psychic torturing – lack of focus, lost energy and hidden stress.
Do some simple techniques to learn to be in the present. When you savor the moment –
1. You probably find your enjoying life more
2. You’ll be less stressed and more productive
3. You’ll enjoy food more even as you eat less
4. The likely some more open and generous
5. He’ll appreciate the people around you more
6. You become a better listener and Observer
7. You’ll find a better communication and connection in your relationships
Who could argue with all that?
Learning to be present, or mindful is a lifelong pursuit. Meditation is all important to that can lead to the skill. There are things that you can do today to help. Many of the techniques involve breathing – focus on it, it’s almost guaranteed to bring you back to the moment requires no special tools or training, so it’s a perfect way to begin.
Try to adopt is one of these ideas, even once a day – whichever one seems easiest. Once you experience being in the present, you can find you want to try other techniques to extend the feeling. Here are a few examples –
1. When the phone rings, don’t jump up to answer it – take a good deep breath before you say hello.
2. Program your computer a watch to beep once an hour. -- When you hear the beat, stop and take five deep breaths.
3. Before getting out of bed, take five minutes to do a mental scan of your body-. How does everything feel?
4. Before rising in the morning, utilize your Tabernacle choir--. Remember all the positives of your life. Remember, rehearse, and review all the good things and grace that has been given you.
5. Practice doing just one thing at a time—stop multitasking, it will poison your soul and mind...if you’re eating don’t watch TV or read. If you’re walking… don’t talk to focus on your single activity.
6. As you eat, take small bites into each one 30 times—you will discover you enjoy your food more, and it’s healthier to.
7. Stop look and listen—really smell the flowers, listen to people, focus your attention, and be in the process of the moment. You will be more peaceful, focused, loving, present, and engaged as well as engaging!
Once you start developing the ability to be present at certain times of the day, defined in a valuable skill to call on to defuse stress at any time. As with learning a support or musical instrument, the more you practice, the more adept and you’ll be calm. Before you know it, you’ll be nowhere else but here… are you here right now?

November 27, 2008

The Mini Bucket List

The bucket list—

What one thing would you rather be doing right now?

Anything in the world? …

If you could go there and do it right now, what would that one thing be?

Talk of the bucket list has to do with the need for fun, risk, pleasure, midlife crisis and to do what right now is not doable… the concept of the bucket list assumes plenty of resources and time and money and the ability to execute them and implement one’s bucket list.

Not so fast…. Most of us don’t have the time or money or resources to go around the globe and to see the Kilimanjaro in Africa or to go check out the Pyramids of Egypt. Most of us are lucky to get a vacation once a year and perhaps go camping or stay at a Holiday Inn.

Hawaii might be a possibility for some of us, a very few, but for most of us were a bit stuck.

This being stuck is far more than just a lack of resources— it’s a lack of imagination and thinking out of the box. When you really take the time to think about what is possible and doable within your resources and means some really cool example start to emerge…. I call this the mini bucket list.

There are several Mini Bucket List things that we can get done on a local or regional basis. We still have the physical ability to set do some. The idea of something fun and risky and pleasurable before we die is a good idea. The physical decay of our bodies preclude us from doing many of the things that we’d really like to do that are very real radical…. But it still leaves us with many things that become extremely doable.

Here are some of the aspects of a many bucket list….

1. Affordability

2. Realistic

3. Pleasurable

4. Satisfying

5. Risk/perceived risk

6. Exhilarating

7. Local or regional

8. Ability to execute and implement

9. Legal moral and ethical

10. Out-of-the-box…

If you take the time and sit and think you can come up with at least 10 things you like to do before you pass, which are local and affordable and doable. Some of these might include:

1. Lunch or dinner out at the best place in town

2. A golf weekend, the best place available

3. Afternoon movies

4. Hike & picnic

5. River rafting

6. Two hour massage

7. Full Spa makeover

8. Kayaking

9. Fly to Vegas on a deal

10. Rent a cabin in the woods…. Much, much more.

The idea becomes obvious and the execution becomes painfully necessary for those of us who’ve created and lived in routines for years. The Mini Bucket List becomes therapeutic, in that it gives you some empowerment still have a little fun and a conservative and realistic way and still break the bonds of routine and rut. This becomes therapeutic in that it is risk-taking, and yet the perceived versus actual risk is actually pretty safe.

It fills the need for fun, risk and enjoyment.

Write your list.

Book the trip.

Surprise your spouse.

And get out of here!

Really, Get out of here!

November 05, 2008

Your Passion Plan

Your Passion Plan

How do you identify your life’s purpose? How can you identify your passion plan?

Setting the stage for life Renaissance…

Part of setting the stage for a midlife Renaissance is to…
1. Identify what motivates you.
2. Be creative, and dare to dream.
3. Go up to altitude and see your big picture and get an overview of your life.

Some of the tools you can use to reconnect with your passion plan include:
1. Writing down your goals on paper. They need to be specific, measurable, aligned, realistic, and timely.
2. Accountability; you must be accountable in order to be successful.
3. Inspiration; you need something larger than yourself to motivate you toward your goals.

One way to get started in your passion plan is to take a retreat, a passion retreat if you will.
Take some time away to relax, reflect, and experience renewal.
Write and keep a log and record your discoveries.

Goal setting is a tool anyone can use.
My father introduced me to Tommy Hopkins and his tools to set up written goals.
After 25 years of goal setting, I’ve experienced some of the rewards of utilizing a set of written goals.

The Yale University study of 1953 showed that the 3% of the class that used written goals possessed 95% of the wealth after 30 years. What does that mean to us?
Just this, that in order to be successful and to achieve your life’s dreams, you must write down your goals and execute your plan.

Some of the groups that I’ve been part of who utilize goals, and the support of community include;
Toastmasters, Mastermind groups, Alcoholics Anonymous, church communities, and others.
These all play a role in some form of positive accountability and may play well in your passion plan.