Become a Better Father/Every Day Dad: Really...Be Here Now

Be present now—
Where are you right now? Are you here, in your chair, reading this? Or is your mind racing elsewhere – to your unread e-mail, or what to make for dinner? Are you still flashing back to your tuning comment your boss made hours ago, continuing conversations with people who are not even in the room?
Don’t laugh, but time travel is a real – we spent a lot of time in the past and the future. All day, we plan, fantasize, remember and regret, and missed the here and now. There’s a toll for all the psychic torturing – lack of focus, lost energy and hidden stress.
Do some simple techniques to learn to be in the present. When you savor the moment –
1. You probably find your enjoying life more
2. You’ll be less stressed and more productive
3. You’ll enjoy food more even as you eat less
4. The likely some more open and generous
5. He’ll appreciate the people around you more
6. You become a better listener and Observer
7. You’ll find a better communication and connection in your relationships
Who could argue with all that?
Learning to be present, or mindful is a lifelong pursuit. Meditation is all important to that can lead to the skill. There are things that you can do today to help. Many of the techniques involve breathing – focus on it, it’s almost guaranteed to bring you back to the moment requires no special tools or training, so it’s a perfect way to begin.
Try to adopt is one of these ideas, even once a day – whichever one seems easiest. Once you experience being in the present, you can find you want to try other techniques to extend the feeling. Here are a few examples –
1. When the phone rings, don’t jump up to answer it – take a good deep breath before you say hello.
2. Program your computer a watch to beep once an hour. -- When you hear the beat, stop and take five deep breaths.
3. Before getting out of bed, take five minutes to do a mental scan of your body-. How does everything feel?
4. Before rising in the morning, utilize your Tabernacle choir--. Remember all the positives of your life. Remember, rehearse, and review all the good things and grace that has been given you.
5. Practice doing just one thing at a time—stop multitasking, it will poison your soul and mind...if you’re eating don’t watch TV or read. If you’re walking… don’t talk to focus on your single activity.
6. As you eat, take small bites into each one 30 times—you will discover you enjoy your food more, and it’s healthier to.
7. Stop look and listen—really smell the flowers, listen to people, focus your attention, and be in the process of the moment. You will be more peaceful, focused, loving, present, and engaged as well as engaging!
Once you start developing the ability to be present at certain times of the day, defined in a valuable skill to call on to defuse stress at any time. As with learning a support or musical instrument, the more you practice, the more adept and you’ll be calm. Before you know it, you’ll be nowhere else but here… are you here right now?

DADS ARE AN ENDANGERED SPECIES!

Really...Be Here Now

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